I want to relocate. Now that I’ve declared myself a “free” black woman I think it’s time to spread my wings and fly.

I haven’t been feeling Atlanta in a long time. After my car was stolen I think something in me died. Becoming a victim of crime has a way of doing that to you.

I’m more alert about crime and things happening in this city. With all the carjackings, robberies, and general fuckery it’s safe to say Atlanta is on its way to being another Detroit.

It’s time for me to exit.

So, where will I go?

I don’t know.

I want to find a nice cozy city in the south where professional black women are doing the damn thing.

I’m looking for a place that is smaller than Atlanta, has less traffic than Atlanta, and less crime than Atlanta. And to keep it 100…less niggas than Atlanta.

I’m looking for a place that has a lively social scene but nothing too crazy. I’m looking for a place where I will be one of the crowd in terms of black lesbians…and not a novelty (easier said than done…I know).

I’m looking for a place where I can buy a home at a reasonable price and live comfortably. I’m looking for a place with great schools (both private and public).

Does what I described exist?

I don’t know.

I do know there is no such thing as a black utopia, and if such a place existed it would crumble like shit as has been the case with every single “black mecca” in this country.

A couple of people have suggested I check out Houston. I’ve heard some good things about Houston, but I have also heard Houston is basically another Atlanta meaning it’s hood as hell with a flock of undesirables.

To be clear, I don’t want to move from one hell hole to another. I’m going to be real, I don’t ever want to live in another black mecca again.

Here is a list of places I’m considering…

  1. Charlotte
  2. Houston
  3. Virginia Beach
  4. Hampton
  5. Nashville

If you have any suggestions let me know.