I don’t typically give interviews though I get several request to do so. I’ve never really been interested in doing interviews. When I usually get a request to do an interview I ignore it. I think I’ve probably done three since I started this blog. Other than the fact that I value my privacy, I do not trust the white run media to adequately represent me as a black lesbian with a mind of my own. I’ll show you why I have good reason to feel that way…
About two weeks ago I got a message from a man on Facebook asking if he could interview me for an article he was writing for The GAvoice, which is a LGBT publication here in Georgia. I said yes. I told him to email me the interview questions and I told him I would respond. Well, here is the shitty article he ended up producing.
My comments were taken out of context and edited. It’s clear as day that this man, who is black, wrote this article for the white gaze. He didn’t really want to know the challenges of black lesbians. He probably doesn’t even care. He wanted to know how he could make whites feel comfortable (read: accepting) with black lesbians. Other than his mediocre way of writing, someone needs to tell this brother that reporting ain’t his thing. Instead of the modified piece of shit he produced in the article, which lacks basic formatting, you can read my comments word-for-word based on his questions below…
As a prominent blogger, what do you feel are some of the unique challenges and benefits of being a Black Lesbian woman in 2018?
Being a black lesbian in 2018 is no different than being a black woman period. The only difference is our personal relationships revolve around women and not men. Sexism, racism, classism, and every other ism plagues our lives just as they do our straight counterparts. You can add homophobia to the mix, but that’s the only challenge I see that separates us from other black women.
The only advantage I can think of is being a lesbian allows me to look critically at black men (and men period) without the emotions straight black women experience. I’m not looking to black men for understanding and/or affection. Therefore, I’m not likely to look past the things some of them do that are adverse to the black community, black women, black children, and themselves.
What can non-AA, non-lesbian allies do to be better?
Nothing. I don’t expect them to do any more than what they’ve been doing, which more often than not amounts to nothing.
The truth is black lesbians (and black women in general) don’t have any allies. Allies are an illusion. History has shown us that we don’t have any allies. All we have is each other. “Non-African American, non-lesbian” allies have proven themselves to be completely useless and often times self-serving when it comes to advocating for black lesbians.
Beyond basic courtesy and respect, I don’t expect anything from them.
How do the identities of being AA and a lesbian intersect, in your experience?
They rarely intersect for me. I know it might be different for some black lesbians, but my sexual orientation rarely intersects with my ethnicity/race. This might be because people don’t look at me and just assume I’m gay the way they look at me and see that I’m a black woman. It’s not like sexism and racism where I experience both from being a black woman. I’m a woman who is both black and a lesbian. That’s all there is to it for me.
The only time there is any type of intersectionality concerning my race and sexual orientation is when I see whites comparing the quest for gay rights to the civil rights movement. In an example of our “allies” looking out for their self-interest, we get to witness first-hand how they try to compare the plight of white privileged men and women and their struggle for gay rights to that of black people and the civil rights movement.
Anyone paying attention to the world and history knows this is a false comparison. Not to mention it’s quite insulting to hear this nonsense from a group of people who otherwise under normal circumstances are free, and always have been free, of any type of discrimination in this country.
The only people who can possibly compare the struggle for gay rights to that of black people’s struggle for civil rights are people who are both black and gay. I don’t know a single black lesbian or black gay man who would dare to even compare the two. Why? Because we typically face more discrimination from being black than we do from being gay.
Is there any particular post you would point to as a good example of your experience?
I will never give another interview.