It’s been four and a half years since I started growing my locs and I couldn’t be happier! I have my good and bad days, but I think this is one of the best decisions I ever made for myself. I look good with them!  

I am a firm believer in DNA. I think it is God’s gift to man, criminology, genealogy, science and specifically African Americans. I say this for a few reasons. DNA and genealogy are helping to solve cold cases. Long forgotten cases are being reopened thanks to DNA and genealogy. The …

I think I know when this blog will end. I never intended for it to continue forever. All good things must come to an end. Next year will make ten years that I’ve owned and operated this blog, and next year will be the end. I think I will officially …

I’ve been exposed. My philanthropy has been discovered. It’s been discovered by a member of my family no less. Let me explain… A little over a year ago, I received word from my father that the Baptist church that has long been a cornerstone for my family is going through …

I am opening my blog to guest bloggers! The reason why I’m doing this is because I’m interested in reading deep personal stories about lesbians. I’m fairly certain many of you are interested in the same thing. After all, isn’t this partly what attracted you to my blog in the …

Serena Williams doesn’t owe anyone shit…and neither does any other black woman. Everyone is talking about her outburst at the US Open in which she lost in the finals. The controversy stems from the righteous outrage Serena displayed towards the empire and during the match. If you missed it you …

Soul food, soul music, and my soulmate…three things I love! At this point, it shouldn’t be a secret that I love soul music, soul food, and Sapphire. There is nothing more beautiful to me than all three coming together like they did on Monday… Recall, that I planned to give …

Dreams are meant for everyone….except black people….or at least that’s the way that it seems. Do you think when black parents tell their children, “You can do anything you put your mind to” they really believe it? I don’t…let me explain why… When I was a little girl I had …

Everyone is talking about Reverend Jasper Williams Jr., the preacher who gave the eulogy at Aretha Franklin’s funeral. Not surprisingly, most black people hated his eulogy. Why? Truthfully…because he put our dirty laundry in the streets. That’s the only reason I can see why black people would be mad about …

This past week I experienced a moment of clarity like nothing else I’ve ever experienced in my life. I don’t believe in ghost or spirits. I’ve never been a religious woman, or even spiritual woman for matter. With that said, I’m not quite sure how to explain the emotions that …

I don’t typically give interviews though I get several request to do so. I’ve never really been interested in doing interviews. When I usually get a request to do an interview I ignore it. I think I’ve probably done three since I started this blog. Other than the fact that …

“You are the last person I need in my life!” That’s what I said to Yellowbone yesterday after I walked away from the table we shared at the food court at the mall. I’m quite certain she was surprised, but it is the truth, and I’m glad I said what …

Yellowbone has literally breezed back into my life. I’m tired and I don’t feel like writing a whole post. I’ll get around to that this weekend. All I have to say is WHY LORD….WHY??

Indigo and I discuss my solution to the WNBA’s problems. The league is not making any money. Yet many of the players want to be paid more and some are even pointing out a disparity between their salary and that of men in the NBA. I offer my solutions to …

There is a lot of stuff that I wish I’d learned in school that simply was not taught. The public education system in this country needs to undergo a full scale overhaul because as far as I can tell it is an antiquated system that teaches bullshit. I say that …

Quite a few middle aged black lesbians read my blog. I didn’t realize this until fairly recently after noticing the ages of the people who responded to my survey, and who follow me on Facebook. Based on the surveys I received from many of them they are not comfortable with …

I have created a five question survey to gauge your reaction to the two podcasts I have posted on this blog. I use the word “podcast” loosely because what you have here is just me talking into a recorder. The recordings I have posted don’t have much production value and …

Good news folks! Now you can call and text me directly. I have set up a Google Voice account specifically to communicate with you, my readers, directly. When you call and text me it goes directly to my cellphone via the google voice phone number. Before I start getting a …

Last night I had a very strange dream. It was a hell of a dream! The dream was so good that I rolled over and called into work. There was something unsettling about the dream now that I’m wide awake and thinking about it… I dreamed I was fucking my …

I don’t have any family support. I’ve been alone in this world since my grandma died in 2014. I haven’t felt whole since her death. There is a big hole in my heart and I don’t think it can be filled. I haven’t had any family support since her death. …